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Burnout doesn't apply to my kid

by lumpy » Fri Feb 27, 2009 10:16 am

This one is for all the Dad's who wonder if hitting lessons should be increased from once a week to twice a week. If your team should play 5 or 6 dome games this winter. I only bring this up because I suspected my own kid was showing signs of burnout over the last two years and I backed off. To be honest, I'm not sure if my dd is playing the game for me or her. I guess only time will tell, but she made some changes and eliminated much of the organized team practices and dome practice games last winter. She is still working on her game but gets to spend more time being a teenager. I hope it helps but wouldn't be surprised if she hangs up her cleats. I know every kid is different, but I think the following should be required viewing for softball nuts like me.

I apologize if you have seen this before. I am new to this board, and do not know if this story was posted on here before.

http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/otl/news ... id=3790359
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by GSB » Fri Feb 27, 2009 10:46 am

IMO, I think they got the definition confused.

Burnout - Over work leading to loss of interest.

Parental Athletic Servitude (PAS) - Either forced or implied parental athletic expectations, contrary to the wishes of the child.

She really never liked the game and said she knew this from age 13 on. This was not really a case of burnout but, a case of parents pushing a child into a sport they liked and not what the child wanted. This is PAS not burnout.

P.S. She's nuts as well. :o :o :o
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by coolstuff » Sun Mar 01, 2009 4:59 pm

Definitely a case of PAS but the girl also has a very competitive spirit, and pushed herself to work hard. She would have done so in anything she chose to pursue, and she will likely excel in anything she sets her mind to. It was probably her parents who pushed her into basketball, dreaming of national TV attention and a WNBA contract. As long as the goal to be the best was ahead of her, she stuck with it. And when she became the best there was no reason to stick with it, because she didn't love the game.
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by jag1 » Wed Mar 04, 2009 5:48 pm

I think it's important to give your kid a break, let HER decide how much is too much. I'm just the taxi and check-writer for mine..! If she doesn't want to do the camps/clinics, hitting instruction, ect....that's more rounds of golf, and maybe a vacation for me.... :)
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