Well...I could write a freaking book on this, but I;d have to name it "I was a Dumb SOB but I Learned'
I'm from an area so far behind on being 'visible' its palpable...BUT...we're learning..
Here's my 'learning'...and for the record, my kid aint to bad and I have the ass callouses from driving to seek what we (wife (aka Highness) and I felt was best...Learned a LOT from people on here, a bunch of whom Ive met and now call friends...They guided me, helped my daughter with things even beyond 'performance'...
Several of whom could call me broke down someplace...all I wanna know is where they are, may take me a bit but Im coming...PLUS I know GREAT folks in virtually every town in the US I can call who'd help! (They wear camo)
Instructors?
I did a tad of research...Its real simple, common denominator, There's some, Simply watch TV (not that I gave 2 damns about my kid being on TV BTW) but the gals you see playing most have something in common...
California...and no its not the ONLY place where the game is played at the highest level, other areas are in those dogfights now...and thats a GREAT thing...But California is where it started...
so I used the Clampett Theory..."Californeey if the place you oughta be"...wasnt gonna move...But I sought knowledge from their programs...Even my friends on here from other State will attest they made friends with folks from the OC...I look forward to the day I can get all of them together and go massacre some fish in the Gulf of Mexico
And by an odd quirk of fate, at the beginning of my epiphany, I met a couple of men at the WCWS from CA several years ago who are common denominators, one probably the biggest...Di NOT know who he was...Both are very unassuming, very amiable and thankfully honest. Main man is by far the biggest reason my kid got a shot...BUT, it was ALL her blood, sweat and tears...
So pick who teaches your kid...carefully...
Group lessons (besides whose teaching)?
Depends on how big a group and TBH what caliber of kid is in the group?...Your kid cant, shouldn't swing a bat, throw to 2nd or across field or take ground balls continuously for an hour...besides blisters you risk stupid injuries from overuse...certain skills one on one is best
As far as Jen...I love Jen, only met her once as we were departing PGF summer before last...but have chatted with her some...Shes 'walked the walk'...and...Look at where her students are committed? Besides that...and Im gonna proclaim a secret...Men coaches dont *really* know what motivates girls...Thats the closely guarded 'secret of life'...or at least part of it... Jen does with her spirit and love of the game...
As far as yoga pants...rather see that than some 300 pound man in athletic shorts 2 sizes to small and varicose veins that look a Rand McNally map of of LA
NOT that even notice yoga shorts

Im a gentleman
for example of girls listening to girls...
I used a FANTASTIC Professional catcher...a beast with 2 National Championships for my kid...@$80 an hour...some catching, some hitting...Mine came home with a HUGE grin saying she'd shown her something at the lessons and she was CRUSHING the ball...The tip?...Keeping her head down on ball longer...wow...Ive only been telling her that since she was 8 (shes was 16 then)....BUT, that tip came from another young lady...