What to do with my Assistant Coach

[Sftbll4ever]

Just found out that my assistant coach is shopping her DD to another team. Should I cut her or let them leave on their own. Not a spectacular player, but consistent. It also puts a hole at that position.

MC

Cut them....If they are shopping they have already mentally left your team....If you don't cut them you will lose more than that kid!!

I agree with hotwheels. If they are looking they are already done. Had a player that did that. Then the dad goes on one of the old boards and announces that if this org. were to add another team and needed a coach, he would do it. Then, turns around and denies the whole thing.

[DDG]

At least talk to them before just cutting the kid. There is a chance (maybe small) that this is not a big deal, other than their concern that the kid is not ready to move up. You can always let them go. By giving them a chance to talk, which maybe is too hard for them to initiate, you are at least being the "adult" in this scenario.

Why create more hate. We have enough of that in softball. Amazing how many people want you to boot the kid without any discussion, simply based on this action.

Good luck. Hope it works out for you and the team.

[Skarp]

Sigh. Why is it always up to me to bring the lantern?

This is the time of year when players explore options. It's nothing personal, just like it wouldn't be personal if her game dropped off and you were forced to cut her. She may have no complaints at all about your team, and may be very happy there, but it makes sense to look around occasionally in case there is a substantially better opportunity out there. It's selfish and egotistical for a coach to expect players not to do that.

If you care about player happiness and development, and are confident in your own abilities as a coach, then not only should you not have an issue with your players having an occasional look around, you should support it. When your maturity as a coach reaches the point where you really just want your players to be in the best spot for them, you will have no shortage of players and families who want to play for you.

DD's coach used to struggle with this issue, but this year he told all of the girls that he expected them all to take off at least one tryout for another team. He told them that trying out is a skill that requires practice, and that each of the girls owed it to themselves to become familiar with how other teams do things, and to expand the group of girls and coaches that they personally know. That's enlightened coaching.

[artomatic]

^^^boy ain't lyin'^^^

[rbi]

Sigh. Why is it always up to me to bring the lantern?





DD's coach used to struggle with this issue, but this year he told all of the girls that he expected them all to take off at least one tryout for another team. He told them that trying out is a skill that requires practice, and that each of the girls owed it to themselves to become familiar with how other teams do things, and to expand the group of girls and coaches that they personally know. That's enlightened coaching.

I would call that a coach who is confident in his abilities, and I think that he is correct when saying it takes practice to get ready for a tryout. You can physically prepare till you wear your cleats out but, IMO serious mental preparation is a must when preparing for a tryout. All this stuff builds character, confidence and the will to succeed, at the same time it is so important to not be afraid to fail, and hopefully this will help the girls as they move into the real world.

When coachs tell you that you cannot try out for another team if you want to play for them, that shows me a serious lack in confidence on their behalf. If you know what your doing as a coach the good ones will come and STAY, if you S**k you will find yourself looking for players each year instead of turning them away.

[kingskid]

Once you are on a team trying out for another is a sign of disrespect. If they don't want to be there let them go period. Find out why she went to another tryout. Let them know being part of the coaching staff it sets a bad example and you guys have to part ways period. She cannot stay on board after shopping around. Undermines everything your team is trying to do.
Simple rule if a kid goes elsewhere looking stay there because not welcome back over here.
Best of Luck! Coaches need to be on the same page or the team never will be.

JMHO

[CrushersDad]

Just found out that my assistant coach is shopping her DD to another team. Should I cut her or let them leave on their own. Not a spectacular player, but consistent. It also puts a hole at that position.

MC

Cut them....If they are shopping they have already mentally left your team....If you don't cut them you will lose more than that kid!!

This is exactly what will happen.

based on the information you provided - cut them

[nohesitation]

Just found out that my assistant coach is shopping her DD to another team. Should I cut her or let them leave on their own. Not a spectacular player, but consistent. It also puts a hole at that position.

MC

Now that you know, you should at the very least start looking for replacements. That’s plural one player and one coach.

[Billyz]

this subject always makes me laugh if you tell the coach your not happy and you want to tryout for another team its always the same your cut. If you don't tell the coach your trying out for another team now your being sneaky and everyone is mad.

Its like looking for a better job. how many of you tell your boss your going for interview today for a higher paying job sorry but I'll be a little late after lunch. HUh yea right your fired!

[Skarp]

Its like looking for a better job. how many of you tell your boss your going for interview today for a higher paying job sorry but I'll be a little late after lunch. HUh yea right your fired!

Smart employers don't throw tizzy fits either. If they are losing employees, they simply strive to become more competitive in that market. They realize it's not about the employees...it's about them.

Perhaps there's a larger lesson in there somewhere...