I am not sure this comes down to 'both sides are suggesting'. It comes down to, was a line crossed? I think that it was. Are you arguing that it was not?
Until I get the true story, I'm not arguing either way. I don't know the history and I wasn't there. And unless you were in that dugout, you weren't there either. None of us knows exactly what was said, what instigated it, or what actually happened. On this forum alone, it's gone from choking to strangling to intent to kill. Yet you claim it is "clear" what happened??? People are making personal attacks based on a one-sided story that was heard 2nd-and-3rd-hand. And when a good faith apology was publicly posted by one of the presidents, he got bashed too. Seriously??? It may not be a witch-hunt, but it's mob-like and witch-hunt-ish. It needs to stop.
Again, apologies were made and accepted from the parties involved. The presidents of their organizations have talked and seem willing to move past this ugly incident. The rest of us really should consider respecting that.