information needed

[176stiches]

I'm new to travelball and heybucket . My daughter recently made a travelball team 12u . My concern is that it's turned into DB . I'm wasn't looking for this since leaving rec ball for the same reason . I've already paid the entry fee and paid my one monthly dues in advance. Can I ask for my fees back since joining this team ?

[DonnieS]

DB? Drama ball ?

[176stiches]

DB? Drama ball ?

Daddy Ball

[NumeroUno]

usually once you pay you don't get it back, but if a parent is unhappy right away they should give it back. Should...may not happen.

[176stiches]

Thank you very much

[CheckWriter]

I think I replied to two different threads at once. I read this and then read:

The end of page 3 and page for of http://www.heybucket.com/viewtopic.php?f=616&t=34291&start=30

and posted this:

I know of only one team in Nor Cal where the coach stays in 12U and coaches that age year after year - don't know Ms. Norwood but she must be part saint. So, if a 12U kid doesn't make her team, she should learn to play chess? 12 U is, I think, where most girls graduate from rec ball to travel ball. This whole "do you homework / research" thing is just not realistic when you join that first team. It is also not realistic to have a clue where your DD fits in for a year or two. How does she compare athletically, motivationally, competitively. That stuff takes some time to figure out. Having two DDs playing college ball it was very trial and error for the first couple of years.

How the F are you supposed to figure out if you are an A ball studette or a B ball also-ran if you don't go out there and play with somebody? You go to a couple of try outs, you do your best to make what you think is the best decision for a place for your DD and you see what happens. Unless the OP's first choice is a complete horror show I'm not sure cutting bait is necessarily the best thing to do - it may be. Now mom & dad have to, probably literally, take notes on all the teams they play, cruise the park, watch the other teams' warm ups, chat up the parents, watch the girls and the coaches during the games and hopefully find a better situation during the next round of tryouts.

Respect the game? Dilute the talent? The 12Us are frickin' 10, 11 and 12 years old. Please. That concentration of talent sorts itself out quite nicely by the time 16's and 18's rolls around. Let the girls play, the dads coach and figure out where they fit in.

JMO

Kind of replying to both stitches and MMM in the same post. I guess my main point for stitches is that you have to have experience in this TB life to make good choices and if this is your first DD going through, you are going to make some mistakes along the way.

Oh well, too much football this weekend.

[Fredegar]

Of course you can ask for your money back. But don't be surprised if they say that things like entry fees are non-refundable.

You said it's turned into daddy-ball. If it's been less than a month, what are you basing that on? If you're basing it on 1 weekend of play, you might give the coach/team more of a chance. It sometimes takes new 12U coaches a couple weekends to find their way. If it's been 1 or more weekends, then you probably shouldn't complain about the money since the team has already had umpire costs, etc.

[jonriv]

I would say an old Army term FIDO

You are early in the process and I do not think it is good for you or your DD to quit at the first sign of trouble. You should have your daughter work hard- she is new to the team so she needs to prove herself. She needs to take advantage of the opportunities she gets to play and play well- if it does not work out, change teams at the end of the season.

My DD started TB at 14u as the only new member of an established and successful TB team. Although she always felt like an outsider, her hitting got her into the the #4 slot. She learned a lot that year. She played more games than the previous three seasons combined and against superior competition. She learned that a spot earned is much better than a spot given. After the season was over she decided that she still felt like an outsider and went to a different team. Although all of her experiences were not great that summer, she and I both look back at it as one of the reasons she is successful now. It built up her skills, her confidence, and most importantly her character.

If your DD is not getting the playing time you think- talk to the coach and ask what they think she could work on. Never put down other players or compare your DD to them. There are people out there that do practice DB, but a lot a tinmes it is a convenient excuse for disgruntled parents.

So as I said before FIDO

[176stiches]

Thankyou very much! All keep my head up and hope for the best that my daughter will prove herself and move on after the season.

[ScubaGuy]

I have to agree with Jonriv. My DD had almost the same experience you are talking about and as Jonriv said she learned a Ton from that season. Trust me the seasons are short and times will not always be fun but there is alot to learn still.