Why do people have to lie?

[yawhatever]

Why do people feel the need to lie when they leave a team? Why can't they strap on a set and be honest and tell the coach why they are leaving or even that they are leaving? Do they really think coaches buy "my DD is tired" or "she needs a break" or "she not into it"? Do they not think that EVERYONE knows they are going to show up 4 days later at a tryout down the street. I know its the nature of the beast.... that doesn't mean I have to like it!

[Iluvblue]

How would you react if someone called you and said they were leaving because they thought you were a terrible coach, or your team sucked, or they wanted their kid to play another position, or they thought you were a true daddy ball coach.


if they are leaving, does it matter?

I had 13 players last Summer. One of the players did not come close to playing like we thought she would. During qualifiers she started splitting time with other kids as she just didnt hit the entire Summer.

before our last qualifier I got a call from her dad. He is a VERBATIM log of how the call went. ia m not making this up, this is EXACTLY what was said:

Me: Hello

Parent: HI, Corey, this is XXXXX

Me: Hi, XXXX, how are you.

Parent: Good, hey I just wanted to let you know that XXXX is going to shut it down for the Summer.

Me: Ok, have a good Summer.

Parent: Ok, uhhhhh, thanks, Good bye.

Me: Bye

Click. Conversation over. i dont care why they want to leave. if they want to leave, what does it matter. Unless something has happened that made the kid uncomfortable on the team, that would be different and it would be up to the parent to come out and be honest.

[DonnieS]

i dont care why they want to leave. if they want to leave, what does it matter. Unless something has happened that made the kid uncomfortable on the team, that would be different and it would be up to the parent to come out and be honest.

same here - it some one wants to leave, there are plenty more on the list, no doubt the same with you.

[THE MAD-DOG99]

Parent: Good, hey I just wanted to let you know that XXXX is going to shut it down for the Summer.

Me: Ok, have a good Summer.

Parent: Ok, uhhhhh, thanks, Good bye.

Me: Bye


Blue...I love that part the best...been there ..done that...you know the guy was expecting you to beg him to stay...

[bunt-n-run]

Seems to me that in most cases it's really not that much of a mystery as to why a player leaves. Parents give all sorts of reasons but, if you've been paying attention, you will have a pretty good idea as to what the truth is.

[yawhatever]

I don't really care that a player leaves..... #1 why try and hide the fact you are leaving and #2 why lie about it when asked... man up and say why ...or say tell me none of your damn business

[Slammer]

Travel ball is full of lies and never gets better. Some lie to better themselves and make them look better.

Coaches lie to get players, Suzy will play, she is the best blah blah. Coaches are like salesmen, Always trying to sell you on your DD of either how good they are or how good they have gotten so you will stay.

Some lie because DD isn't the best and sits but parents cannot come to reality and see that she is not the best because the one time she did do well they base her whole season on the one time. Parents will lie about a team and a coach they were just on because DD didn't play where they think she should of played even though the coach had her in a better position that she excelled at. When their DD got cut it couldn't of been their DD no not at all it has to be the coach and his horrible way of coaching. People move on when you leave a team stop talking about the past. Softball is small community and pretty soon people see the true colors of all the trouble you have caused. Parents lie about how many pitches she has and how fast their DD throws. And if their DD doesn't have what it takes it must be that they are having a bad month oh I mean day.

Travel ball is full of backstabbing and lying people, get used to cause I have a feeling it never goes away. You cant believe anyone in travel until you see it for your own eyes. Everyone smiles and tells a different story to each person they know and as soon as your turn your back watch out cause your the next person they are talking about. I've seen teams torn apart by lies and backstabbing. Its the strong that survive and if you can stay out of all the drama and don't get caught up in all of the lies than you will be a better travel ball parent or coach than many.

[Skarp]

Dear monolithic wall o' words: paragraphs are your friend.

[Skarp]

You actually listened to me? That's a first.

[Slammer]

I fixed it for you Professor Skarp