Do your team parents grumble too?

[OCD]

IT WAS A STATE CHAMPIONSHIPS GAME. IN THE LATE ROUNDS.14U

[WildRoseCoach]

OK... now, when your DD turns 20, do you think she will become a Meth Head because her 14U team lost in the New Jersey State Tournament?

[Phantom]

Every parent grumbles to some extent. It may be in private, it may be in the stands, it may be over drinks. If it does not interfere with the coaching or moral of the team, get over it. Yes a bitching parent can become a cancer, but bad coaching almost always precipitates the bitching parent. Not always but most of the time. Many coaches think their job is totally on the field. When practice or game is over they are done. This is not the case.

I noticed that many of the better coaches/managers have monthly parent round tables (no kids). Parents are encouraged to give positive and negative feedback to the coaches/managers. This does not mean the coach needs to change anything he is doing with the team. He only needs to listen and keep an open mind. Coaches who are truly open for input benefit as they sometimes get ideas that they haven’t thought of and can many times learn something they didn’t know. Some coaches/managers do this with a simple telephone call or parking lot conversation with the individual parents where they ask for input. It does not need to be a formal meeting.

This also keeps the grumbling down as the parents feel they are being heard and fosters a "we are in this together" attitude. Some coaches do this with their players as well.

I would not recommend this for coaches who are thin skinned or "know everything". If you are not willing to hear a truthful perspective, don't ask.

good post, very true

[artomatic]

OK... now, when your DD turns 20, do you think she will become a Meth Head because her 14U team lost in the New Jersey State Tournament?

if she moves to the towns where they hold the socal state tournaments every year, she might...

[hotwheels]

Okay,
Please help me on this. I was a victim in the ("how could she hear me say that" ?) in the stands. I was talking to my buddies right next to me, not a players mom (had to be 25 foot away from us. This would be seen as an out of character episode for me. I am usually laid back and just rooting for my girls. So, I was witnessing some (some as in 2 or 3)crazy coaching maneuvers. I dont want to get into the decisions that the coach made but lets just say that we ended up losing. Huge game, major upset win for us and a huge disappointment. I was not the only parent up in arms. (8-9 parents) My question is:
How do i act at the next practice.
a) like it never happened.
b) own it and say ... so.
c) avoid everyone at all cost
d) show up and smile a little bit...
e) confront mom and apologize
f) silent treatment
thanks in advance ..... droopy eared daddy.

As far as the parent is concerned I would NOT address them with it.....I would pull the coach aside and tell him what you said about him and his STUD coaching moves while you were very angry......Say that you wanted to let him know because that is how you were feeling at that time and you would hate for him to hear it from someone else.....

[OCD]

Now that i think of it, it was not even that bad.. it was a line up comment.(lead off)
I think that the coach is still red in the face...i am not going to tell him squat. It was not the line up that killed us but it did'nt help when the person in question came up late in the game with 2nd and third two outs. (oopps, there i go again)

[BRUNO]

The women on our team seem to be the the main biaaaaaaatchers this year. Tell you what these woman are good at what they do. For one they hear everything within a 30ft radius of where they are located. These cancer cells play the other parents like a fiddle and before it is over the parent they are playing ends up speaking up and looking like a idiot.
The worst parent is the dad who tries to break the team up by starting a new better team. Have a dad in our area who has a DD on a different team every year. Every year he tries to break the team up. A real shame considering his DD can play pretty well and is the nicest young lady.The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Had a team mom on my sons varsity baseball team this year who would incite parents at every game. When the game was over she would let the head coach know via e-mail or in person every word that every parent had said.

[AGameGal]

Better yet, just make fun of the ugly parents, it can be quite entertaining, especially if you are good at impersonations. (And after a few drinks).

What if I am the ugly parent?

I'm only on page 2 of this thread but I am going to say that this is not the case.

[Skarp]

Better yet, just make fun of the ugly parents, it can be quite entertaining, especially if you are good at impersonations. (And after a few drinks).

What if I am the ugly parent?

I'm only on page 2 of this thread but I am going to say that this is not the case.

Hah! Take that Suckas!!!

[Ace]

Better yet, just make fun of the ugly parents, it can be quite entertaining, especially if you are good at impersonations. (And after a few drinks).

What if I am the ugly parent?

I'm only on page 2 of this thread but I am going to say that this is not the case.

Hah! Take that Suckas!!!

So What? Arto has two screen names too.