Fastpitch Discussions

by **MADDMAN** » Sat Feb 14, 2009 2:18 pm

If your DD can't rise above, then move on. But, what happens when she has to adjust in High School or College. Take this as a chance to show maturity and character. Yes, I agree that she should have the first option in keeping or giving up the #, but keep your eye on the prize. Put on your big girl panties and try to work this out with the other player/parents. What is the Head Coach's thoughts? Sounds like he is trying to keep the peace.

by **Skarp** » Sat Feb 14, 2009 3:40 pm

by **artomatic** » Sat Feb 14, 2009 3:45 pm

MADDMAN wrote:But, what happens when she has to adjust in High School or College.

She might be done with college before this post dies...

MADDMAN wrote:Put on your big girl panties and try to work this out with the other player/parents.

by **GIMNEPIWO** » Sat Feb 14, 2009 4:34 pm

artomatic wrote:
MADDMAN wrote:But, what happens when she has to adjust in High School or College.

She might be done with college before this post dies...

MADDMAN wrote:Put on your big girl panties and try to work this out with the other player/parents.

I think Tatoo is eyeing those big girl panties ...

by **Skarp** » Sat Feb 14, 2009 6:28 pm

artomatic wrote:She might be done with college before this post dies...

That's what I was laughing about. A year later, and the thoughtful advice keeps rolling in. lol.

by **AM Softball** » Sat Feb 14, 2009 9:34 pm

Pitchermom wrote::o What would you do? DD played with this travel organization last year. She is asked to stay with them this year and agrees. Several weeks later, one of the organization's other teams folds (coaching problems). Several players, who have been with the organization for numerous years, get folded into my DD's team (which they needed a couple more players). All is good and well, except, one of the players being folded in has the same uniform number as my DD. We point this out to the coach right away and inform him DD has already expressed concern over this and does not want to change her number. My DD is the first string pitcher on her team. Tonight, at a parent meeting we are told that the player folded into our team, well, her family has been with the organization for years, and though it wasn't spoken of, her parents own a pole barn in which numerous teams on the organization practice, therefore, pretty much, since she doesn't want to change her number, they are going to stand loyal to her and not make her. My daughter is in tears. She has had this number for years herself, and feels she works hard to do what she does and her feelings shouldn't be disregarded just because the other player's parents have more cash. The organization did offer to buy her a pair of sweats and hoodie to sweeten the deal with her new number. I thought that was a pretty nice offer and tried to sway her to think of another really cool number, but that proved futile. I told my daughter that I wouldn't make her pitch under a number she didn't want, but that her only other recourse would be to change teams. She is torn and crying. I don't blame her. And frankly I'm a little put off that she's being asked to begin with. The other young lady plays outfield. My daughter is a good pitcher, 13, throws 55 mph, can throw 6 different pitches, and is known for her accuracy. Part of me wants to tell her that we have money invested in this organization and she should suck it up and choose another number. But hey, I'm just as peeved as she is about how she is being put aside, so I've told her if she wants to change teams, we would not stop her. What would you tell your daughter to do?

On ALL of my recruiting trips, I asked if my number was available and that seriously went into my decisions, lol. It may sound crazy but I relate to your daughter 100%. I'd be looking for a new team. Just me. I would support either decision she made.