"...you need to have your daughter step back and take a look at the big picture"
Being part of a team, indeed, lends itself to situations that result in coping skills and lessons learned. Teenagers (I've got 3 of them right now) need to learn the concept of putting things into perspective & getting over the drama. A year from now your daughter, if she remembers this incident, will end up saying, "Mom, I can't believe I let that bug me so much." Time will heal. I still get the occasional sigh-and-eye-roll when I say this to mine:
"In the grand scheme of things, in the vastness of eternity, is THIS REALLY going to matter 10 minutes from now?" A lesson in overcoming the idea that anyone is the center of the universe.
from mozzy's 14 year old daughter: (just a catcher...)
\tell your daughter to suck it up. sorry, but it's not the end of the world if you have to change numbers. heck, when i joined MY first team, i had to change MY number because another girl had my number and she was from where the team was set up, so she got to keep it. (i was 12) but seriously, does this REALLY matter? is this REALLY gonna make her life miserable? if so, i don't know if your daughter should stay in travel ball, if all she's gonna worry about is whether her number is taken or not. who cares if her number is taken? just play the flippin' game and have fun, number or not :] it would be a nice gesture to be a good sport and tell your team mate that you're cool with it. :]
(p.s. heck, if I got offered sweats and a hoodie to change my number, I would wear Roman numerals, for all i care
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