The reason Sam and G man ask where are you when your kid is hitting is because many newer parents go camp out behind the backstop when their kid is hitting to give them "advice".
Watch this scene, and think of your kid as Paul Giamatti's character, and you (parent) as Thomas Hayden Church's character.
The sound isn't too good, and there is some language, but basically, this is what a player is feeling when their parent is behind the backstop while they bat.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUrsX9O7Y2cOk, so you will so much advice for your question that your head might explode.
I think you have to keep is simple, she needs to be balanced and in rhythm.
After the obvious fact that she needs good fundamentals, it's alot of calmness, confidence, and making adjustments.
Try to get her a good instructor that will keep things simple, and your job is to enjoy watching her compete and building her confidence.
Deserve's got nothin' to do with it.