by socal8 » Fri Jan 20, 2012 2:47 pm
..same problem with my daughter. Even had some church elders ridicule my daughter for choosing Softball over Church.
These are older folks that didn't know the connection and importance of of today's athletes and athletic competition (intertwined with academics) and how it relates to their future college ambitions. Our church does not have a strong youth group.
I set these folks straight. I told them flat-out that I did not want to hear any more critisism to her, personally. And that if they had a problem, to address me...not her. Further, that if they didn't appreciate my membership, I would be very happy to travel to a different location of my faith and support that congregation, instead. (You would be surprised how even with religion, the bottom line comes down to the almighty dollar.)
I suggested that they create an optional service during the mid-week. Partly to bolster their own failing youth membership. Of course, many traditionalist don't even want to hear those types of suggestions.
In the interim, for those Sundays of conflict, I've made it a practice to attend an optional church that is not of my denomination...but, does provide a mid-week service.
I have also made it very clear to our Deacon and church president of my displeasure with those small-minded folks with tunnel-vision. That I would not be opposed to abandoning the congregation in a heart-beat, if necessary. They both assured me of that type of intolerence is not acceptable, and would stop immendiately.
I noticed that nothing further has been said ny church members. And one of those that said something to my daughter, has since apologized. However, I can tell there is a bit of residue from those that don't agree.
The above incident happened about 4 years ago. My daughter is now approaching 19 and attending college in Virginia. All but one of those, that were involved, have either passed away, are unable to attend due to health, or have moved away. Today, the congregation is desperately trying to recruit new and younger members. One of the approaches they are embracing is conducting a Wednesday night "Contemporary style" service that is geared towards a younger crowd.
If you feel the need, feel free to share this experience with your folks, as well.
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