Nobody's saying you are dense. A lot of folks have been corrected on this before, including yours truly.
FORCE OUT: An out which may be made only when a runner(1) loses the right to the base that the runner is occupying(2) because the batter becomes a batter-runner, and before the batter-runner or a trailing runner has been put out.(3.)
This has been parsed by the experts in multiple ways including, but probably not limited to:
1.) "runner" - only runners can be forced out. Batters and Batter-Runners are separate and distinct entities
2.) "occupying" - the batter never "occupies" home plate
3.) "before BR has been put out" - how can BR be put out before BR has been put out? (X-Files re-runs don't count)