Heybucket player/coach butthurt form

[Safebyahare]

Please add to the lists.

,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Butthurt Release Form,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
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Please describe the nature of the butthurt,
( ) Coach sat dd for 2 games
( ) Coach sat dd after an error.
( ) Coach said dd didn't cheer and lose was dd's fault
( ) Coach says dd don't try.
( ) Coach said dd watch too many strikes go by.
( ) Coach says his kid is better pitcher than dd.
( ) Coach says dd was late and sat dd, but Susey was later and started.
( ) Coach plays favorites.
( ) Coach picks on dd., or doesn't acknowledge.
( ) Coach added player at last month of season and took dd spot.
( ) 20 players same 9 for last 15 games.
( ) Coach gives favorites ear candy and dd crap.
( ) Coach changed his commitment.
( ) dd payer not player
( ) dd only base runner for catcher.
( ) Coach has double standard
( ) Coach goes by numbers and not quality.
( ) Coach needs to do it my way.
( ) Coach not fair.
( ) Coach won't let dd use her own bat.
( ) Coach favors infielders.
( ) Coach says to hit his way, not hitting coach way.
( ) Coach put dd in for last out of game.
( ) Coach preaches adjustment, yet hasn't adjusted lineup in a month.
( ) First base coach has hands in pocket.
( ) Coach pads stats by playing core players against weak teams.
( ) Coach is not keeping track of dd stats.
( ) Coach is punishing dd for my mistake of asking about playing time..
( ) Coach is holding my dd back.
( ) Coach says dd important, hasn't seen field in a month.
( )
( )


,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Coach's version,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Please describe nature of butthurt.
( )Hot mom put on a few pounds and now not so hot. sat kid.
( ) Parent is pain in ass and always complains,
( ) Parent doen't help in snackbar.
( ) Parent late on payment.
( ) I gave their kid a chance and she came up short.
( ) It's about winning, and making a name, for next years program.
( ) I needed to fill roster and got no replies.
( ) Kid keeps missing signs
( ) Parent upset that their dd not starter.
( ) Kid doesn't understand commitment.
( ) Parents committed, end of subject.
( ) Will run my team as needed to succeed, whatever it takes.
( ) Did not know this kid was a team hopper.
( ) Kid hangs with friends from other teams, rather than teammates.
( ) Gave me dirty look when told to bunt.
( ) Parent questioned mu authority.
( ) Money good,kid good, just not a good player
( ) Good enough to wear uniform, just not enough to take field.
( ) Kid lacks confidence, will sit on bench till improves.
( ) Kid doesn't hustle at warm ups.
( ) Kid's dad coaches behind backstop, bench kid.
( ) Parents talking crap on other better players.
( ) Parents make my starting parents uncomfortable.
( ) Mom did not bring me a snack treat at game break.
( ) Parents are big mouths and need not talk to me.
( ) Parents made confrontation complaint at game in front of others.
( ) Broke a team rule.
( ) These people are creating team drama.
( ) Complete my budget.
( )
( )


Both parties answer yes or no to the following question.
(Y) (N) Did the butthurt cause a quiet uncomfortable ride home?
(Y) (N) Did you have to buy ice cream?
(Y) (N) Did you treat your dd differently because of the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Were there tears caused by the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Was there loss of sleep from the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you vent the butthurt to fellow parents?
(Y) (N) Did others feel the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Were there warning signs that a butthurt was going to happen?
(Y) (N) Did anyone witness the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you go on social media and call out the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you learn from the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Has this person butthurt others before you?
(Y) (N) Will you recover from the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Should there be a punishment for butthurting?
(Y) (N) Do you need revenge for the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you notify a tournament official about the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Have you filled out a buthurt release form before?
(Y) (N) Did you loss work hours or money because of the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Is your mind consumed with the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Has the butthurt affected your home life?
(Y) (N) Was there a way to avoid the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you deserv the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Is this butthurt self inflicted?
(Y) (N) Where you wearing an evo-butt guard?
(Y) (N) Was this a slow and progressive butthurt?
(Y) (N) Do you walk with a swagger from the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you post and describe the butthrt on Heybucket?
(Y) (N) Did Spazsdad care?

[Pale Rider]

*BOOM*

[Safebyahare]

Please add to the lists.

,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Butthurt Release Form,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Player/Parent version,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Please describe the nature of the butthurt,
( ) Coach sat dd for 2 games
( ) Coach sat dd after an error.
( ) Coach said dd didn't cheer and lose was dd's fault
( ) Coach says dd don't try.
( ) Coach said dd watch too many strikes go by.
( ) Coach says his kid is better pitcher than dd.
( ) Coach says dd was late and sat dd, but Susey was later and started.
( ) Coach plays favorites.
( ) Coach picks on dd., or doesn't acknowledge.
( ) Coach added player at last month of season and took dd spot.
( ) 20 players same 9 for last 15 games.
( ) Coach gives favorites ear candy and dd crap.
( ) Coach changed his commitment.
( ) dd payer not player
( ) dd only base runner for catcher.
( ) Coach has double standard
( ) Coach goes by numbers and not quality.
( ) Coach needs to do it my way.
( ) Coach not fair.
( ) Coach won't let dd use her own bat.
( ) Coach favors infielders.
( ) Coach says to hit his way, not hitting coach way.
( ) Coach put dd in for last out of game.
( ) Coach preaches adjustment, yet hasn't adjusted lineup in a month.
( ) First base coach has hands in pocket.
( ) Coach pads stats by playing core players against weak teams.
( ) Coach is not keeping track of dd stats.
( ) Coach is punishing dd for my mistake of asking about playing time..
( ) Coach is holding my dd back.
( ) Coach says dd important, hasn't seen field in a month.
( )
( )


,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Coach's version,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Please describe nature of butthurt.
( )Hot mom put on a few pounds and now not so hot. sat kid.
( ) Parent is pain in ass and always complains,
( ) Parent doen't help in snackbar.
( ) Parent late on payment.
( ) I gave their kid a chance and she came up short.
( ) It's about winning, and making a name, for next years program.
( ) I needed to fill roster and got no replies.
( ) Kid keeps missing signs
( ) Parent upset that their dd not starter.
( ) Kid doesn't understand commitment.
( ) Parents committed, end of subject.
( ) Will run my team as needed to succeed, whatever it takes.
( ) Did not know this kid was a team hopper.
( ) Kid hangs with friends from other teams, rather than teammates.
( ) Gave me dirty look when told to bunt.
( ) Parent questioned mu authority.
( ) Money good,kid good, just not a good player
( ) Good enough to wear uniform, just not enough to take field.
( ) Kid lacks confidence, will sit on bench till improves.
( ) Kid doesn't hustle at warm ups.
( ) Kid's dad coaches behind backstop, bench kid.
( ) Parents talking crap on other better players.
( ) Parents make my starting parents uncomfortable.
( ) Mom did not bring me a snack treat at game break.
( ) Parents are big mouths and need not talk to me.
( ) Parents made confrontation complaint at game in front of others.
( ) Broke a team rule.
( ) These people are creating team drama.
( ) Complete my budget.
( )
( )


Both parties answer yes or no to the following question.
(Y) (N) Did the butthurt cause a quiet uncomfortable ride home?
(Y) (N) Did you have to buy ice cream?
(Y) (N) Did you treat your dd differently because of the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Were there tears caused by the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Was there loss of sleep from the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you vent the butthurt to fellow parents?
(Y) (N) Did others feel the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Were there warning signs that a butthurt was going to happen?
(Y) (N) Did anyone witness the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you go on social media and call out the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you learn from the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Has this person butthurt others before you?
(Y) (N) Will you recover from the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Should there be a punishment for butthurting?
(Y) (N) Do you need revenge for the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you notify a tournament official about the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Have you filled out a buthurt release form before?
(Y) (N) Did you loss work hours or money because of the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Is your mind consumed with the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Has the butthurt affected your home life?
(Y) (N) Was there a way to avoid the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Did you deserv the butthurt?
(Y) (N) Is this butthurt self inflicted?
(Y) (N) Where you wearing an evo-butt guard?
(Y) (N) Was this a slow and progressive butthurt?
(Y) (N) Do you walk with a swagger from the butthurt?

I have truly entertained myself.

[PDad]

I have truly entertained myself.

TMI... and there are laws against doing it in public.

[Dugout Dad]

Hare, are you bringing that form this weekend for 23U?

[Hurricane]

Forgot a biggie:

______ Coach destroyed a 13year old girl's confidence and love of the game.

unfortunately, this happens too many times and the other bystander coaches/parents sit and let it happen. We are not talking 16 or 18's....we are talking about impressionable young athletes who still are working their way to play at the next level.

Let's face it..at some point, we are all guilty of being bystanders by allowing it to happen...too afraid to say something for fear of retribution.

Shame on all of us.

[guero_gordo]

Team plays tight, will continue screaming at them until improvment happens.

[Hurricane]

um, I think you're missing the point. Of course if the team is playing tight and not performing like you had coached them, then they deserve to be chided.

But, it's not the yelling at the girls for doing things wrong that is the problem...it's the individual personal attacks and the demeaning nature of them that will crack a player's desire. It's the inconsistency. Demeaning one girl for doing something wrong, but not doing the same to another girl for doing the same thing wrong because her dad helps you coach or whatever.

A coach is there to teach the girl's the game of softball. A coach is there to make a player a better player by teaching her the game. Yelling at players to get them motivated to perform has been around forever. But demeaning a player should not be tolerated at an age where girls are already going through so many physical and emotional changes. Coaches who work with girls at this age need to understand this....that they are just 8th graders!

I've witnessed that line being crossed too many times....even by so-called "good" coaches.

I've said my peace. We all know it's been going on forever. It doesn't mean it's right, either. If all of us bystanders call it out when it happens, just maybe then these coaches will start to understand it. But it can't come from just the parents whose DD's are affected, it must be called out from ALL parents/coaches when it happens.

To stop Bullying, the Bystanders must stand up. Let's all vow to be that change.

[Safebyahare]

Forgot a biggie:

______ Coach destroyed a 13year old girl's confidence and love of the game.

unfortunately, this happens too many times and the other bystander coaches/parents sit and let it happen. We are not talking 16 or 18's....we are talking about impressionable young athletes who still are working their way to play at the next level.
Let's face it..at some point, we are all guilty of being bystanders by allowing it to happen...too afraid to say something for fear of retribution.
Shame on all of us.

The OP was for fun and to make light of what frustrates parents/players/ going through the gauntlet that is travelball.
It was not to be about bulling or tearing apart or breaking a young girl.
In hindsight my dd has been demeaned, put down, put out,and pulled apart with this game.
Some times it was the coach, sometimes it was politics, sometimes it was unfair, sometimes it was ability, sometimes it was me.
I don't know how to post pictures but if you saw my dd when she was young, you would see a thin small twig of a girl.
If you saw me, you would see an ass, who pushed sometimes too hard and sometimes had expectations too high.
We found the balance and persevered. She became stronger mentally and learned life isn't fair and you don't always get what you put into it. But sometimes it is recognized and shows.


Ride hard, and enjoy the ride, love the sport, but if you get butthurt,,,,well we have a form for that.

[tbjd33]

um, I think you're missing the point. Of course if the team is playing tight and not performing like you had coached them, then they deserve to be chided.

But, it's not the yelling at the girls for doing things wrong that is the problem...it's the individual personal attacks and the demeaning nature of them that will crack a player's desire. It's the inconsistency. Demeaning one girl for doing something wrong, but not doing the same to another girl for doing the same thing wrong because her dad helps you coach or whatever.

A coach is there to teach the girl's the game of softball. A coach is there to make a player a better player by teaching her the game. Yelling at players to get them motivated to perform has been around forever. But demeaning a player should not be tolerated at an age where girls are already going through so many physical and emotional changes. Coaches who work with girls at this age need to understand this....that they are just 8th graders!

I've witnessed that line being crossed too many times....even by so-called "good" coaches.

I've said my peace. We all know it's been going on forever. It doesn't mean it's right, either. If all of us bystanders call it out when it happens, just maybe then these coaches will start to understand it. But it can't come from just the parents whose DD's are affected, it must be called out from ALL parents/coaches when it happens.

To stop Bullying, the Bystanders must stand up. Let's all vow to be that change.

Come on now... Bullying? Regardless if someone agrees or not each family chooses the team and coach. Stand up? I say mind your business and worry about your own DD. To many people worrying about things that aren't their issue.

My daughter plays for a "tough" well known coach. We choose to put her in a place where she is consistantly pushed to be the best she can be. Period! The day we decide or find an example of her being talked down to or demeaned we would make a family decision at that time.

Toughen up people... This damn world is just to damn soft!!