Safebyahare wrote:My question was intended to be more of an ethical question.
So let me ask it this way.
YOU are the mgr/coach of a org./team and a player no longer wishes to play for you.
They have returned everything, are current on their dues ect, they are done with you.
Why not sign release papers for that player and let them be on their way?
Let them deal with the governing bodies and their rules and regulations of play.
Why as a Mgr./coach would you not release them?
Coaches primary job is to achieve the goals set out for the team at the start of the season. When your child is no longer on the team, are they still progressing towards those initial goals.
The other families want still want to accomplish their goals for the season. Your leaving puts them in a bind. Now they have to recruit/replace that void.
Often when this happens, the coach is immediately put into a very tough position. Super top tier coaches may just continue on. Most other coaches are now faced with a big decision. Continue on and try to draw talent to fill out, or roll it up and look to get as many kids on other great rides to nationals as possible.
I suspect you already know the position the remaining team members and coach are in with your departure. But remain pretty focused on your situation and what you are going to do. They are merely doing the same.
If you are a coach with a kid on the team, this process can become a huge trap. Everyone else can go bouncing around team to team looking for the best deal for them. Coach does that, and it is guaranteed to kill the team. So he is stuck hunkered down until everyone else decides his fate.
I am not saying he should not release you. But also don't be surprised that your freedom to bounce around is not so easy for them, and they still have goals and want to create opportunities for their kids and the other kids that remain on the team.