DonnieS wrote:What Sam is saying is exactly correct. He is not saying that "she deserved it" - what he is saying and I am saying is that is what the police, investigators, juries and judges will believe. For those of you like my wife, who unbelievably still watch and believe "law and order" type shows, the real world is very different. Get on your high horse and tell me what is right and wrong - but that has nothing to do with what is real.
What Sam is saying I think is "Girls - dont be stupid" and I on those extremely rare occasions when my daughters listen, say the same thing. They ignore me because I dont know shit. But dads are the ones who do.
No high horse Donnie, but Sam is not saying what you are. He and others are not warning, but blaming. Sam seems to think half are fake and that flirtatious hussies are the fault here. What the report and others like it are suggesting is that schools are not doing enough to protect their female students. They are far more interested in protecting their reputation, image, and star male athletes . The viewpoint of Sam and others is why there is a problem in the first place. Our job as parents is to use this opportunity to warn and guide out daughters to potential problems and hope they listen
Some warnings and ideas
1) always go as a group, you and your friends need to look out for each other
2) most guys are a-holes. Make it a big group and add alcohol and it gets worse. Be aware
3) avoid situations that can put you in jeopardy
4) be aware of what "message" or "signals" you might be giving out intentionally or not. Be in control of your message
5) you can tell your mother an me anything(please mostly tell mom
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6) although your mother and I may seem old, we've been there done that. Please learn from our experience Things were wild in our time too, we just did not have(luckily) smartphones, Facebook, Twitter etc....
Talk to your daughters. Don't assume they know. Don't take a "not my daughter" attitude. Knowledge is power.