exD1dad wrote:Els489 It's gonna be OK. Your DD is still very young & she will find the path she's meant for. First of all I remember reading an ASA stat that 75% quit after their 12U season so it is quite normal for her age group. Life happens.
My DD quit at the beginning of her Senior year of HS after her 3rd PGF, after narrowing her options down to a top 30 academic school that had a not so good D1 team. She didn't start playing until she was 10 & knowing what the next levels demands were, didn't want a full time job in college but most importantly found another sport she liked better. In her case she switched to Track cycling where she rides almost 40MPH with no brakes! She hasn't won a National championship yet but her US ranking has been in the top 10 to 15 the last couple of years for Elite Women & her world ranking is in the 200's but it's a fringe sport. Couple years ago in her 1st Elite International races she beat several riders who went to the the Pan Am games (USA didn't send any sprinters) last year she "causally raced an 8 time world champ" who a month later won gold. She wont peak physically until her mid 20's & she now trains at the Olympic Training Center that's 3 miles from her dorm room. Having competed against All Americans in 2 sports I was her biggest supporter (DW blew her top & freaked out for about 2 weeks) but she created her own destiny & after all its her life.
Here's where I agree with Sam, as both the guy whose DD had the constant usual bumps & bruises, plus back, shoulder & a very dangerous overuse wrist injury as a HS Frosh (where I got great advice here on HB) all because of year round travel softball for 5 years. I think there's tons of kids (boys & girls)who should drop out of Travel earlier, or start later than they do. Now, all her weekly aches & pain from playing the game hard have gone away.
I still watch games, frequently I see old teammates & others she played against & I'll admit i really miss watching her play.
This post pretty much nails it on all counts.
I have one DD who had to stop playing due to chronic patella problems. Having to play year round shorten her career. I say "having to play year round" because that was pretty much the pressure put on her by coaches.
DD2 decided at 10 she didnt want to deal with the TB shit her sister had to shovel, both with coaches and other players' parents. She then learned to surf and its her passion. Its also a lifetime sport, unlike softball. She gave softball another go a year later, but decided at 12 she was done for good. Her mom still gives her shit for it, but its her sister, who wouldve given anything to play again, that defends her, telling her mother that half the girls she played with thru 16u on PGF caliber teams didnt enjoy playing the game half as much as their parents thought they did. The youngest has friends over who are in sports that tell her all the time that she is lucky that she doesnt have to play a sport she no longer enjoys.
Dont be that parent.
Cut her some slack, leave the door open for her to return, and encourage her to find another activity that she enjoys. Softball isnt a life time sport, and there are a ton of kids playing who have lost the love of the game.