I posted a FB letter earlier and deleted it, I was plagiarizing myself.
First off I do not mean to be narcissistic on this but I am my only specimen.
The ramifications of being a softball parent became apparent the other day when my daughter asked me in the car
"dad why don't you ever post my accomplishments on Facebook?"
We had a talk and I posted on FB a few days later acknowledging and explaining again why. (which brings me here)
A little history first. My dd was not always on the field of play,
Way back when,she played left out, center bench, right pine, for a while.
She had the heart and the desire and like all kids wanted to be on the field,
and not just to play but also to please their parents.
It was during this time that I received a deep psychological scar. One so deep that it effects mu judgement today.
I was a parent in the stands supporting my kid as she could only cheer for her fellow team mates.
It is when doing this that you cannot help but notice how other parents behave. I'm not talking about the normal cheering, but the parents who acted like they hit the ball when their kid did. The parents who bragged and gloated how their kid was all that and a bag of chips as they took credit for their kids success.
Now your probably thinking that I was envious, well in some ways yes, but in other ways no.
I wanted my kid to be successful but I did not want to be like these people. You know the ones that live vicariously through their kid or that somehow their kids success reflected on them.
It was at this time that I told myself that I would never be like them.
Well she got better with practice and love of game,
Now currently she has had two great campaigns in her first two years of college.
I have posted some things on FB, but tend to stay away from posting on her accomplishments.
I still have a fear of being like those who I disliked.
I sit in the outfield and avoid other parents.
I see a team of twenty and only nine on the field. I still have that compassion for those who sit.
I think that if I post that some how I've taken some or her credit, something that belongs to her, that she earned.
If I post and a team mate takes it the wrong way.
Is this balanced? Do you post your kids accomplishments?