tbjd33 wrote:as the world turns wrote:I know a lot of kids who don't live in Tudors and they do well. It is not a necessity.tbjd33 wrote:have Tudors
Wow. Gotta love you!
tbjd33 wrote:as the world turns wrote:I know a lot of kids who don't live in Tudors and they do well. It is not a necessity.tbjd33 wrote:have Tudors
Wow. Gotta love you!
jonriv wrote:It is obvious that this young lady is very talented and by all accounts on this site works hard. I am sure that this was great news to this young lady and her family.
As far as a great accomplishment-not sure. Here is what she got:
UCLA bascically said that we have some ($$$$) for you(which can change) maybe if the following does not happen:
-coach changes
-injury
-lousy grades
-bad sat/act
-we change our mind
-skills dont change
Now this obviously puts her in better position than 99% of her peers
The broader question is it good for the sport? IMO, no. Despite Sam's obvious hyperbole, he actually brings up some good points that should cause everyone on this site to lokk at themselves in the mirror. To dismiss those(with experience) as "haters" or "jealous" is foolhardy. we should all think back about what are deision process was like at 13 and how much can and does happen from 13-18. I think can all understand why the parents would want this and why the coaches do this. Unfortunately it sets up an "arms race" where coaches commit younger and younger(as well as more and more" and parents/athletes fee more and more pressured to commit or be left behind. How many times do you read a "Who's Going Where" post and see "school of their dreams" and you see the school and go WTF, really? IMO the choice of school should be made on academic reasons and what opportunities it will help in a career/emplyment after school. If it does not, frankly it is a waste of time. Obviously many players commit early, go to the school of their "dreams" and it works out great, but how many cast to the side somewhere along the process? We never hear about those.
It is right to celebrate the current fortunes of this young player, but we should also be aware of the pitfalls and consequences that may result
as the world turns wrote:jonriv wrote:It is obvious that this young lady is very talented and by all accounts on this site works hard. I am sure that this was great news to this young lady and her family.
As far as a great accomplishment-not sure. Here is what she got:
UCLA bascically said that we have some ($$$$) for you(which can change) maybe if the following does not happen:
-coach changes
-injury
-lousy grades
-bad sat/act
-we change our mind
-skills dont change
Now this obviously puts her in better position than 99% of her peers
The broader question is it good for the sport? IMO, no. Despite Sam's obvious hyperbole, he actually brings up some good points that should cause everyone on this site to lokk at themselves in the mirror. To dismiss those(with experience) as "haters" or "jealous" is foolhardy. we should all think back about what are deision process was like at 13 and how much can and does happen from 13-18. I think can all understand why the parents would want this and why the coaches do this. Unfortunately it sets up an "arms race" where coaches commit younger and younger(as well as more and more" and parents/athletes fee more and more pressured to commit or be left ehind. How many times do you read a "Who's Going Where" post and see "school of their dreams" and you see the school and go WTF, really? IMO the choice of school should be made on academic reasons and what opportunities it will help in a career/emplyment after school. If it does not, frankly it is a waste of time. Obviously many players commit early, go to the school of their "dreams" and it works out great, but how many cast to the side somewhere along the process? We never hear about those.
It is right to celebrate the current fortunes of this young player, but we should also be aware of the pitfalls and consequences that may result
I am agreeing with you on this one.............doesn't mean we'll be taking warm showers together until the wee hours of the morning.
jonriv wrote:as the world turns wrote:jonriv wrote:It is obvious that this young lady is very talented and by all accounts on this site works hard. I am sure that this was great news to this young lady and her family.
As far as a great accomplishment-not sure. Here is what she got:
UCLA bascically said that we have some ($$$$) for you(which can change) maybe if the following does not happen:
-coach changes
-injury
-lousy grades
-bad sat/act
-we change our mind
-skills dont change
Now this obviously puts her in better position than 99% of her peers
The broader question is it good for the sport? IMO, no. Despite Sam's obvious hyperbole, he actually brings up some good points that should cause everyone on this site to lokk at themselves in the mirror. To dismiss those(with experience) as "haters" or "jealous" is foolhardy. we should all think back about what are deision process was like at 13 and how much can and does happen from 13-18. I think can all understand why the parents would want this and why the coaches do this. Unfortunately it sets up an "arms race" where coaches commit younger and younger(as well as more and more" and parents/athletes fee more and more pressured to commit or be left ehind. How many times do you read a "Who's Going Where" post and see "school of their dreams" and you see the school and go WTF, really? IMO the choice of school should be made on academic reasons and what opportunities it will help in a career/emplyment after school. If it does not, frankly it is a waste of time. Obviously many players commit early, go to the school of their "dreams" and it works out great, but how many cast to the side somewhere along the process? We never hear about those.
It is right to celebrate the current fortunes of this young player, but we should also be aware of the pitfalls and consequences that may result
I am agreeing with you on this one.............doesn't mean we'll be taking warm showers together until the wee hours of the morning.
You never know?
as the world turns wrote:I am agreeing with you on this one.............doesn't mean we'll be taking warm showers together until the wee hours of the morning.
jjsqueeze wrote:Comparing a college choice to arranged marriage? WTF. UCLA is a great school, offers a world class education in a wide variety of fields. Deciding to VERBAL there at an early age to give your daughter an inside track is a great thing to have in your pocket at 13. Maybe it comes to fruition, maybe it doesn't, but it sure as hell doesn't hurt to have a scholarship offer on the table (even a verbal) at 13.
It's a verbal for God sakes, it is not binding, If the kid decides at 16 she wants to study something that UCLA does not offer, or she decides that maybe she does not want to go through the grind of playing for a top 10 D1 program and focus on academics more, She can back out and go to any school in the nation and say she was a verbal commit to UCLA and get a look on the spot.
Every kid is different and every family is different, just assuming she is being taken advantage of or is being pressured, or will be crushed under the weight of the expectations is arrogant. We don't know the specifics of the family, maybe three generations of her family has already gone to UCLA so it was decided a long time ago she would go there anyway. Maybe she is pressuring her parents to go there. Maybe she likes bears a lot.
Her parents sure as hell don't deserve to be criticized (either directly or indirectly) by a bunch of people who don't know them or their situation.
Sam wrote:jjsqueeze wrote:Comparing a college choice to arranged marriage? WTF. UCLA is a great school, offers a world class education in a wide variety of fields. Deciding to VERBAL there at an early age to give your daughter an inside track is a great thing to have in your pocket at 13. Maybe it comes to fruition, maybe it doesn't, but it sure as hell doesn't hurt to have a scholarship offer on the table (even a verbal) at 13.
It's a verbal for God sakes, it is not binding, If the kid decides at 16 she wants to study something that UCLA does not offer, or she decides that maybe she does not want to go through the grind of playing for a top 10 D1 program and focus on academics more, She can back out and go to any school in the nation and say she was a verbal commit to UCLA and get a look on the spot.
Every kid is different and every family is different, just assuming she is being taken advantage of or is being pressured, or will be crushed under the weight of the expectations is arrogant. We don't know the specifics of the family, maybe three generations of her family has already gone to UCLA so it was decided a long time ago she would go there anyway. Maybe she is pressuring her parents to go there. Maybe she likes bears a lot.
Her parents sure as hell don't deserve to be criticized (either directly or indirectly) by a bunch of people who don't know them or their situation.
Actually the comparison to an arranged marriage is valid. I notice your response dismissed the argument without attempting to say why you felt it wasn't valid.
If the trend continues toward earlier and earlier verbals there won't be scholarships available for kids who de-commit. That is one of the points being made here. It only adds to the exploitation.
A 13 year old doesn't pressure her parents to do anything.
The criticism of the parents and the coaches has to do with future kids who will now be exploited further by their actions normalizing this behavior by people who would just as soon use these kids, toss them aside and move onto the next victim. These schools know about the pressures they apply and could give a flying f#ck. the pressure has already taken a terrible toll on many of these young ladies. If we who's see this as destructive remain silent, we acquiesce.
I haven't posted here in months but I couldn't stand by and listen to the koolaid drinking sycophants glorify a despicable act by a desperate coach.
tbjd33 wrote:
Have you actually been through or in the midst of this process? You sound as though you have no clue and presenting only your observations. I assure you I speak in realtime with experience. This process is NOTHING as you depict!
Sam wrote:jjsqueeze wrote:... These schools know about the pressures they apply and could give a flying f#ck. the pressure has already taken a terrible toll on many of these young ladies. If we who's see this as destructive remain silent, we acquiesce.
I haven't posted here in months but I couldn't stand by and listen to the koolaid drinking sycophants glorify a despicable act by a desperate coach.