by rbi » Mon Sep 08, 2014 12:25 pm
The HS experience is so much more than the game itself, those that loose sight of that are obviously going to look for the negative. Thats just human nature, look for the negative to build value to THEIR decision, whatever it may be.
I have plenty of HS stories but I will focus just on one, my DD HS softball experience. She was very fortunate to walk into a program as a freshman that was pretty loaded with TB talent, so much so that they were ranked in top 5 in State OF CA as a Freshman. They blew threw teams and probably won 60 games in two years at D-1 level making to the CIF title game, all in her first TWO years. So at the ripe old age of 15, she had decisions to make , because her HS team had graduated all the talent and the HC left.
We could transfer, not play at all, run track, or take it as a life learning experience and make it a positive. SHE chose to stick it out and the wheels fell of and her HS team did not win 15 games in next two years. Trust me very challenging times for my DD, playing for a top ranked HS team and one of the best TB teams in the country to, basically she was asked to help coach her team that could barely get outs let alone win games last TWO years. To me it was a very good life lesson, and I took that approach with her, as its not always going to be peachs and creme. I Told her to help her teammates be better people, not just softball players, she gave some of them gloves and bats (as they had none), she helped them learn the basic fundamentals of the game, she talked to them about school and how important it is for them to stay in (had some rough kids trust me). Only thing i would NOT let her do and she wanted to was, get in the circle, HELL to the NO i said.
She became real close to the girls whom SHE knew would never see the softball field again after HS, and maybe not even graduate. She had a HC who was a basket case and would not even get out of her golf cart at most practices (if we had practice), so she had that to deal with as well.
I will say this, after it was all said and done and you asked her what she enjoyed more, the first two years or last two, she would answer the last two, because she felt she was helping some kids hopefully take the right fork in the road. We have learned since this time, that some did not take the right fork while, a couple have stayed in school that probably were headed to very bad situations, and that makes her feel like it WAS all worth it. Those of you that call b.s., you really dont know my kid.
Its all about how you approach a situation, instead of looking for the negative, thats the easy route!
FWIW
Confucius say:
