I find myself in the middle of the same old story... DD (12u, P/SS) joins team based on promise of pitching time, team plays, DD doesn't pitch, team swept from tourney in 4, coach offers no explanation.
(And please, I don't want this to become one of those 'sour grapes' threads, I'm really only trying to find some clarity and insight from those of you who have been around TB for a good long while.)
That's the short version, heard / told / experienced countless times by others, I'm sure. I won't bore you with the details (see next "paragraph below" if you really want to know) because I'm sure many of you have heard it all before, but I can't help but wonder... why do coaches do this? They must know it won't sit well with the player or her parents, and that it won't engender trust among the team (and the parents), so why bother with the charade?
"Paragraph Below" (for those who haven't heard the story before, or who enjoy hearing it over and over)
DD tries out for several teams, each is informed we're there looking for pitching time. Several teams offer pitching time. Family decides on team based on A: assurance of pitching time B: combination of - coaching, DD's compatibility with other girls (how well they all get along), team schedule and goals, location, etc etc.
Team practices for a month, DD develops bonds with players, is in the circle during practice to learn all the signs, signals, pick-offs, cut-offs, etc. All throughout, coach maintains DD will be pitching, along with 2 other girls, we'd be going with 3 arms. All the girls are fine with this.
Come Game Day, coach has 2 other girls warm up, puts DD at SS, she plays her heart out, but can't help but wonder what's going on. Come Elimination Day, again, DD doesn't even warm up, plays infield, never questions coach, is left with a couple of bruises: one a little bigger than a softball due to a HBP, the other to her ego.
We get home that afternoon, Mom learns DD didn't pitch, is livid because she wouldn't cut a check to the team until coach assured her DD would pitch. I give coach a call and ask what's up, he says DD might pitch, will probably pitch, not sure if she's going to pitch, yada yada yada, team had a better chance of winning with DD on infield.
So again, why do coaches do this? Do they expect a 12U kid to give up pitching lessons and her dream of pitching in college? Or simply take the season off (at 12u?)? Do they expect the kids to trust them? or ever believe anything they say? Are they so desperate for good ballplayers that they lie to keep them around for a while, and then hope they won't go to the trouble of looking for another team? If they know the only reason the girl joined the team was based on their word that she would pitch, shouldn't they at least make an attempt to explain what changed in the plan, to try to stave off problems in the future? What good is coach is he doesn't keep is word and makes no effort to communicate with the kid or family? What are the kids supposed to take away (learn) from these situations?
These are questions I'm asking myself, and maybe they're not the right questions, but I simply don't get it... and since this isn't exactly uncommon, maybe some of you coaches could shed some light on what kind of thinking results in these situations. And what advice you might have.
Thanks.